10 things to ponder on
How are you? Lets get to know ourselves even more. More awareness means more clarity. Lets navigate and pickup gems along the way.
Hold thoughts lightly
We have the tendency to grip too tightly. May it be with beliefs, stories and opinions. Holding tightly provides the illusion of safety, we love the idea of being in control, but this way of being is unsustainable.
In the long run, you will change, your world will change, gripping onto things will deplete your energy. A light grasp is more appropriate, always be ready to be wrong, always ready to learn.
Breathing through changes in equanimity.
It’s dark because you are trying too hard.
Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly.
Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply.
Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.
I was so preposterously serious in those days, such a humorless little prig.
Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me.
When it comes to dying even. Nothing ponderous, or portentous, or emphatic.
No rhetoric, no tremolos,
no self conscious persona putting on its celebrated imitation of Christ or Little Nell.
And of course, no theology, no metaphysics.
Just the fact of dying and the fact of the clear light.
So throw away your baggage and go forward.
There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet,
trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair.
That’s why you must walk so lightly.
Lightly my darling,
on tiptoes and no luggage,
not even a sponge bag,
completely unencumbered.
Aldous Huxley
It’s never about you
Everybody is busy with their own stuff. Your subscribers are too busy with their own lives.
We think that the spotlight is on us 24/7. That the happiness and redemption of the world lies in what you do. This leaves us paralyzed and responsible beyond what is needed.
Remember to care only as much as it is needed. Sometimes things work out without our intervention. We love to think that we are the sole hero because f the world, but in the grand scheme of things we are mere helpers in completing the big jigsaw puzzle of life.
Try noticing when you are putting the spotlight on yourself for too long. Take a step back and let others shine.
But more importantly, there’s no need to be obsessed with what others think of us. The reality is that everyone has greater concerns — themselves. So speak your mind. Take some risks. Be the man in the arena.
Lois Chew
Make with what you have
This is the beauty of pantry cooking. Whatever you may have on your pantry can be the key to a delicious meal.
Wherever you are is the perfect place to fight the battle for joy. You have brought yourself right where you are with all the knowledge and skill you have aqcuired for years.
You are the the culmination of all that you have learned and unlearned. You are the leading edge of your ancestors.
With what you have right now, what is the best way to move forward knowing where you are going.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
Fear is excitement
What happens in your body is the same in the state of excitement and fear, heart rate raises, sweating, hyper alert and aware because it is ready for action. However what happens in the brain can be reframed.
Fear is only false evidence appearing real. Excite yourself by using the body’s arousal brought about by fear into a doorway for your evolution.
Pick a thought, a picture in your mind’s eye, YOU successfully accomplishing a tremendous feat. Go to your why, visualize your ideal. It will only make sense to the brain that these hard things are only necessary for your fulfillment.
Make your brain work for you by using fear as excitement. Treat fear as your signal that you are about to do something worthwhile, turn it into excitement.
"Courage is knowing you're scared to death, but saddling up anyway."
Mel Robbins
Your life is a gift
Going back to the basics (clean water, breath, shelter, food) and knowing we got them provides a stable ground to start our day. It is so rare that you are alive right now, just let that sink in and marinate for a bit. I talked about this insight here.
Never squander this precious gift. From where you are, is a possibility of transforming, transcendence and liberation. Aren’t you excited to be an example of what is possible?
What does it look like for you?
Remembering you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose — Steve Jobs.
What are you gonna do about it?
What are you gonna do about the lot in life that you are given? It is not about what is given to you but what you make out of it. Focus on things that you can control which is the way you think about things, your attitude rather than the circumstance.
Remember that there are only three businesses we need to know, God’s, other people’s, yours. Mind your own beeswax and let your work, your vibrational resonance, speak for itself.
"It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable." - Moliere
Discern if it’s nourishing
Are you tinkering on a thought pattern or construct that is depleting you? Is it about a behavior of a person?
The current state of affairs with regards to war on the other side of the planet? Is it a circumstance?
I will tell you this step over and over again until you do this over and over again as a habit, TAKE A STEP BACK and ask is this nourishing?
Does this thought I choose to occupy my mind with helping me in accomplishing my mission of being the best I can be? If it’s not nourishing, it is depleting.
It is depleting yourself literally just by thinking of it. It affects you molecularly, your cells metabolize as you think. Look up epigenetics.
Often times, it is when we judge that we close ourselves to the truth of all is well and safe. All that you see outside is yourself manifest.
If you see someone as a little short of grace, it is you because your thinking made real of such a concept. Turn it around and ask what parts of my beliefs am I short of grace? Why is my thinking and seeing distorted.
If your love is conditional, your work is not done. I suggest you do the Protocol of taking a step back, taking a deep breath and allow spaciousness to permeate the moment.
Expand time and space, cultivate a calm smile and proceed with grace, there is very little you need to do.
Just let the Dao including all its human inhabitants to flow as they do, they’ll find their way. You just be concerned with your own way which is backwards and down. Humility and knowingness my friend.
Next time you’re stressed…take a step back…inhale and laugh…remember who you are and why you’re here
If you avoid vulnerability; you avoid growth
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Show up in places you are not an expert in and open up new neural pathways.
Recently I’ve been in 1:1 calls and I allow for vulnerability to rise. Sharing a moment with someone and truly listening with out preconceived notions on what is best to talk about. In this moment of not knowing what’s going to happen on a specific level but knowing that I’m there to help and discover through the eyes of the coachee/client, doorways appear that we never knew existed.
There is true courage in allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
DARING GREATLY
Life is a game of constant reframing
Our default reactions is to protect our ego’s correctness. To pump up its pompous ideals, how it is better than everybody. How it is special and separate from the whole. This is a zero sum game, the ego will never be at ease and at peace because that is its nature.
Tap into your awareness by reframing. Switch from “I got to” to “I get to”. From “why is this happening” to “How is this the best thing that ever happened”. A slight shift in thinking can create heaven or hell out of your experience in real time.
If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things, this is the best season of
your life. – Wu - Men
Expecting things to be easy makes it harder
Start your day with choosing to do hard things and your whole day will be easy. Meditate for 10 minutes and your whole day will have been seen with more clarity. Sweat and carry heavy things in the morning and your whole day will be carried with lightness and ease. Expecting things to flow without playing our part of deliberately trying our best is a recipe for disappointment. Expect things to be easy after doing the hard work is the lesson as old as the oak tree.
Hard things are hard because there are no easy answers or recipes. They are hard because your emotions are at odds with your logic. They are hard because you don’t know the answer and you cannot ask for help without showing weakness.
Ben Horowitz, The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy
Are you afraid of failing? Success? Or both
Success entails new things that maybe a mismatch to your current belief pattern. You wish for grandiosity but reluctant to undergo responsibilities that it entails. It’s always about what you give that you are given. A rule so true it has turned to gold.
Be not afraid to fail because it is a part of your journey, be ready for what success come with if that is truly what calls from within.
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This is one of my favorites. Feels like the season of walking lightly; nourishment; fresh air and sunshine. Was reflecting on these very qualities this morning. I love how you draw the best things to my consciousness.
I love (and often need) these reminders, and I’m pumped for that stroganoff recipe!! Thank you!