10 things learned in 10 year marriage & 10 things to cook
10 things learned in 10 year marriage & 10 things to cook
If you want spiritual awakening; learn truths about your ego; make your wife your guru
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” — Mignon McLaughlin
You aren’t yourself; you are the marriage and it is better
For a sacred union to work, parts of yourself as a singular entity must be let go. You are given a partner to reveal parts of yourself you have yet to uncover. Your union is an amalgamation of powers to balance the feminine and masculine parts of you.
You might have aspirations and dreams that you think is best for you, but with marriage, we can run things through a filter if it serves the whole rather than serving only you.
Many call marriage a form of “voluntary enslavement,” Peterson says, but really, “it’s an adoption of responsibility.” The responsibility, he argues, is to help each other solve each other’s hardest problems, which is only possible, he within that boundary of permanence, with the knowledge that your vows truly do hold their meaning.
- Jordan Peterson
You are destined with a partner to soften some harsh parts or the other way around. To function and navigate the world with a loving partner makes this journey worth while. It will make your life long path of learning more important, for you have vowed on something permanent.
To devote to something permanent like getting a tattoo. It breeds trust, and tenacity to face whatever comes that all shall be overcome together.
To find a full reflection of yourself that makes the Hermaphroditus. The perfect balance of male and female functioning as a unit to make the most out of the life we are gifted.
What parts of yourself are you holding on that is preventing you from uniting with a partner that will bring forth a bigger sense of life here on earth?
Being ready for change within the marriage but staying in the marriage is what I have found so beautiful. We often talk about two rocks rubbing on each other until they smoothen into two smooth spheres.
I used to think I can just do anything, be on a boat, cook on a coastal quaint little town, hike up mountains, be alone in a temple, party and be free, but I realized that if I did all of those, it would be empty inside if it is not shared with another.
So as a unit, we decided to serve the world through our creativity through tattoos and music.
Your partner is your ally in the highest aims and pursuits you both agree on. It’s more fun to take over the world with a partner, remember they say some people get lonely at the top.
How are you cherishing your union with another?
How are you staying aligned in your long term and short term goals and aspirations?
In the myth, Hermaphroditus was the son of Aphrodite and Hermes. While bathing in a pool, he was embraced by the water nymph Salmacis, who fell in love with him. Salmacis prayed to the gods that they would never be separated, and the gods granted her wish by merging their bodies into one.
Be thankful you found someone who loves to spend eternity with you
There is a ton of fish in the sea and you found yours. People get bored easily and chuck out things in their lives that don’t excite them. To find each other in this seemingly chaotic and short term fast paced day and age is so rare.
Your life is both long and short depending on how we see it. There will be experiences of grandeur and mundanity. To experience it with someone willing to share their time and attention on how life is experienced is such a gift.
Letting go of what you think your life will be and should be and just surrendering to the higher power of unity saved me a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.
Saw this cup at a quaint shop in Woodstock
❤️You can create your own lifestyle
There is no need for you to repeat what your parents have done. There is no need for their approval or any other approval outside of yourself. Generational traumas can end if you change the trajectory by owning up to your own lifestyle backed by the sincerity of Love.
You can set up systems where in both you and your partner grow together in all aspects of life.
You are allowed to be weird and be a couple who loves crocheting and ceramics who sidelines as a magician. I guess the weirder the better. ❤️
The beauty is in the support that is being shared towards one another that creativity flourishes and thrives rather than continuously trying to fit into an external mold.
How are you creating and embracing this freedom?
Sarah and I have been tattooing people since 2007, has been playing music since 2007 and has been together since 2007.
For months after hanging out with each other, we got huge tattoos of our names. It is weird because normally it is seen as bad luck, but this is proof that you create your own luck, that we are together because we mindfully decided in each and every present moment that we are going to. Having commitment and trust in your future is pretty dope. It’s taking the matter into your own hands, a radical adoption of responsibility that also liberates.
What are fond memories and uniqueness in style of going about things that you share with your partner?
Vegan ice cream is 🔥 this one could dial down on the sugar by 2%
The most important decision you’ll ever make
You are going to spend most of your waking life with this person. This will dictate your overall fulfillment, happiness, experiences, location, activities, and how your day-to-day is designed.
I have learned up to now that I have chosen well. That the principles values and goals that we both have our aligned.
That we agree to change together for growth. So make it clear in the beginning what you guys are getting into before investing your whole life.
One must be ready, it is not about the right person, it is your readiness and willingness to be wrong most of the time for higher learnings and evolutions.
I remember Sarah asking me when we first started to hang out if I was to come with her. And I said yes, with no hesitation. That I am willing to leave everything behind for an exciting new world that I know will come with other things rather than just the sweet fluffy feelings. Be willing to go through the dark for the light to be brighter. To the roots so that the branches reach up higher towards the heavens.
How did you know that he or she is the one for you?
There is always something new to learn about your partner
Each day is an opportunity to learn more about your partner. I read somewhere that to never be bored, tried to get to no one person forever.
In paying attention, I get to discover wonderful things about my partner, things that I can learn to adapt in my own well-being and practice.
I learned a whole lot of softening, spaciousness, and just loving. That the repeated remarks if listen to deeply are precious gifts and lessons that can’t ever be purchased.
There will be always something new because you as a perceived version of your partner changes daily, and vice versa. It’s always a new day and a new opportunity to get to know each other in a new way.
How rare it is to find your soulmate
I don’t know how woo woo you are. But it has been said that some soulmates don’t meet up in this time space reality until after many lifetimes.
Finding your soulmate completes you. It reveals to you higher things that you alone could not ever have perceived. Souls join and unite together for a great cause. It is to drive a mission forward bigger than one’s mere existence or survival.
To some it is tending to the animals, raising kids, managing a household and us for us. It is persistently working on creative pursuits together.
Find your ally in driving a common goal. This mission will be your unlimited source of energy.
Finding him or her is not the end of the story; it is the start
There is no finding the perfect partner. There is only being ready for a serious relationship. Each day you mold and meld together even more, purified and more distilled.
It is the start of shedding things not needed and not of service to the higher good to make space for the new information to be assimilated and put to use from your partner.
It is the start of a version of yourself who can manage another, be a part of another, a sign of profound intellectual and emotional evolution.
You can be partners in business, pleasure and creative pursuits
Don’t mind about how others are doing their affairs. You are free if you want to be partners in many aspects.
We have been creating and performing music, which touring makes us travel and go on dates. Us being in the tattoo studio helps in serving our clients with more love and attention. We process things with two brains, two pairs of eyes and hearts that is more powerful than just one.
Be clear on each others needs and make sure they are fulfilled
Make a daily assessment if needs in aspects that matter are met. Make adjustments accordingly. Schedule experiences, schedule nothingness.
Our early morning hours together help in unifying and clarifying our mission and how we are to deploy this life to optimal joy.
Articulate your needs. Listen to his or her needs.
Treat your partner as your number one customer making sure he or she is having a 5 star experience.
Assure that they made the right choice and make them come back for more.
Happy wife; happy life
Fill your own cup, then spread the joy with uplifting vibrational resonance.
Sometimes it’s the simplest things that are of most important to them.
Spending time. It maybe a fancy cabin in the woods or just a park bench. It is the quality of your presence that truly is the present 🎁
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Let’s get cooking! 10 things to cook this week!
Try one or all of them, brush up on your knife skills, variating and substituting ability. Create confidence in cooking!! ❤️
ICYMI
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Appreciate spots with nice hand soaps.
LOVE LOVE ❤️
I adore you and Sarah!! I see the beauty of your partnership! Thank you for sharing it here with us ❤️❤️❤️
You two are so beautiful, happy anniversary! I love the analogy of two stones rubbing together to smooth the surfaces of each one and I also love places with nice hand soap!